Self-confidence is a skill that many of us wish to master but often fails to do so.
You know that low self esteem is the reason why you under perform but still, you aren’t able to find a solution to this problem.
Fear no more! In this post, we’ll discuss some tips to help increase your self-confidence.
But before that, why is self confidence important?
Being self-confident allows you to enjoy freedom from self-doubt and negative thoughts. It helps focus more and bring out your peak performance as it removes fear from your mind.
What are we waiting for then? Let’s start skyrocketing your confidence.
1. Identify Triggers.
Triggers are the people or situations that affects your self-confidence.
They directly or indirectly lowers your self esteem and leaves you anxious.
Imagine a situation where you would have to speak in front of a crowd. Will you be confident enough to speak without any hesitation?
If not, that situation is your trigger.
2. Find Your Confidence Points.
Just like you have situations where you experience low self esteem, there’ll also be situations when you feel good about yourself.
For example, you’ll be confident in playing guitar at home even if you’re not a good guitarist.
Your home is what’s making you feel comfortable.
If you master the art of feeling that you’re at home no matter wherever you actually are, you’ll be much more confident.
3. Make a Confidence Diary.
Now since you identified your pressure points and peak performance points, you should note them down in what I like to call as the ‘Confidence Diary’.
Writing down these situations will help you analyze your complete behavioral pattern.
This, in turn, makes it easy to increase your self-confidence.
After you make a complete list of them, try your best to avoid those triggers or adapt to them so that you become comfortable at them.
4. Visualize Yourself Facing Your Fears.
Fear can be the reason behind your low self-esteem.
What if I fail? What if get rejected? What if I don’t perform up to people’s expectations?
Stop asking yourself unnecessary questions.
Visualize yourself doing all those things you feared to do.
Feel the feeling of people appreciating your work. Embrace the feeling of getting things done.
Don’t you want to get those feelings in real life?
If yes, start working on your dreams with confidence because you’ll definitely be successful if you do so.
5. Don’t Compare Yourself to Anyone.
Comparison is one of the stupidest thing that our society does all the time.
We being a part of the society may have developed a subconscious habit of comparing ourselves to someone else.
Imagine yourself at a situation where you’d have to speak in a language other than your mother tongue.
For this instance, let’s consider that English is not your mother tongue.
Will you be able speak confidently in front of a person who is good at English?
No, you might stammer. But what if that person was not good in English or better yet, they didn’t understand English?
Then you won’t be half as tensed as you were in the first case.
Comparing yourself anyone else doesn’t make any sense as they didn’t go through the same situations as you did.
If you were to compare, do so with who you were yesterday.
Because that’s the only person who went through the same opportunities and problems as you did.
6. Appreciate Your Efforts.
Self appreciation is the best way to feel good about yourself and feel confident.
Appreciate the efforts you take to improve yourself at work, at studies and wherever possible.
Make a list your achievements every single day and after the week is over go through them.
This will make you realize that you aren’t that bad after all.
7. Get a Sound Sleep.
Believe it or not, sleep also plays a vital role in boosting your self-confidence.
In 2013, a study was conducted to determine the effects of sleep-deprivation on self-esteem and optimism, the results of which were published in the International Journal of Behavioral Medicine. It concluded that those who had 7-8 hours of sleep had more self-esteem and optimism than those who had 6 hours of sleep.
Spending more time on your mobiles may seem a bit tempting but considering the fact that it destroys your self-confidence, I highly doubt if it’s worth it.
If you’re a student who is spending more time sleeping while studying rather than on bed, check out our guide to avoid sleep while studying.
8. Practice Mindfulness.
Quite often we find our confidence levels being affected due to past instances and also future concerns.
This is where you need to develop the habit of being mindful, in other words, the habit of living in the present.
Your past actions can’t be changed no matter what you do. Also, your future happenings would depend mostly on what you do in the present.
So why waste your time worrying about them?
You can use that time for more productive things that will help you reach your goals.
These 8 tips to increase self-confidence can help you a lot if properly implemented.
Confidence is what you create. If you choose to browse through articles and not take any action, you won’t be able to boost your confidence.
You would only gain it through actions and exposure. Write down your greatest fears and title them as your ‘to-do list’.
Face your fears because what is life without a little risk.
Go out there and get things done with your heads held high. Because you are worth far more than what you think.